Gwyneth Paltrow is turning 40 next week and she’s got lots of Goopy advise and life lesson tidbits for us all. I love this woman so much. I know alot of other women find her pretentious and out of touch with the real world…but her honesty always gets me.
She is nothing if not honest. She is honest about working her ass off to stay in shape at her age, she is brutally honest about her PPD after Moses was born and even though she knows it’s going to alienate her from the mini-van crowd she admits she only lets her kids watch tv in other languages so they are learning and that her ‘indulgence’ is a turkey burger! You see what I mean? A turkey burger is an indulgence? In the real world that is eating clean and godly.
To celebrate turning 40 (and of course to promote GOOP) Gwyn covers InStyle this week.
On turning the big 4-0 “I’m taking stock and really looking at everything. I’m trying to accept myself. There’s a Rumi poem, “The Guest House,” about welcoming in all aspects of yourself: The dark, the light, the jealous, the happy. Let them all in. But know that you’re not defined by any single one of them. I’ve become much more serious after experiencing all the ups and downs of life—heartbreak, the death of people I love…These days I feel pretty grounded.”
On why she pushes herself so hard: “I’m hard on myself, so I’m working on shifting perspective toward self-acceptance, with all my flaws and weaknesses. The positive thing that drives me is a curiosity and momentum. The negative is a need to validate myself or feel special.”
On her kids: “When Apple was born, she had the hugest blue eyes. I looked into them, and she was looking at me, and I felt like, You are here to teach me everything. After [Moses] was born I had postpartum depression. It was a difficult time, and because of that I believe I have an extra empathy for him, and he for me.”
Why Goop readers are better than you: “Goop readers trust my taste and know that I know where to find cool stuff. A city guide is a fast and fun way for them to have access to where I actually eat, shop, get a manicure, and hang out.”
On why she and her hubs get along so well: “We laugh a lot, and at the same jokes,” says Paltrow. “We like the same music and we like to do the same things.”
On having more kids “My brain says, ‘Oh, I think I’m done, the kids are so big now, and I don’t want to go back to changing diapers.’ But a part of me would love to have another. Of course, I’m old now!”
On the differences between her and the hubs:
“Probably our artistic temperaments. Artists are sensitive; there are ups and downs mood-wise. Musicians need a certain gravitas and focus in order to write. The temperanemt that goes with someone who is creative can be challenging. I focus more on understanding than being understood.”
On torturing her kids with foreign tv :
“I only let them watch TV in French or Spanish. When I’m in France, I go to [Boulevard] Beaumarchais and buy all their cartoons.”
“I was very strict for a while, I was macrobiotic for a couple of years, then I got pregnant and just ate ice cream. What I’ve learned is that I want to enjoy my life, and food us a big part of it. I love to cook and feed people. I cook everyday.”
On her favorite way to indulge:
“My indulging is a fresh baguette with cheese and a glass of red wine or french fries and fried zucchini. Or a turkey burger.”